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Reclaim your confidence, comfort, and pelvic power by breaking through the invisible ceiling that’s been holding your healing hostage.
What if the biggest thing holding you back from healing your pee leaks, pelvic pain and prolapse wasn’t tight muscles, age…
Wasn’t even the three kids, the menopause, or the surgeries…
What if it was the belief that you don’t get to feel good anymore?
What if your own subconscious was sabotaging your pelvic healing—every time you got close to real progress?
Here’s what I’ve seen after helping over 22,000 women reclaim their bodies:
We don’t just live with physical limits.
We live with emotional ceilings.
These are silent limits we place for ourselves on how much comfort, pleasure, and confidence we’re “allowed” to feel before our mind whispers:
“Be careful.”
“Don’t get your hopes up.”
“Maybe this is just your new normal.”
It’s not your fault.
You were conditioned to believe healing had a limit.
To believe that power, pleasure, and pain-free living are for other women.
But I’m here to call BS.
Because you’re not broken.
You’re brilliantly wired for healing—when your nervous system, fascia, and mindset are working in harmony.
One of my favorite books, The Big Leap, inspired this post. It opened my eyes to how we often sabotage our own healing by hitting invisible limits on how good we’re “allowed” to feel. This idea transformed how I see pelvic floor recovery—and I think it will for you, too.
I’ll walk you through three transformative shifts that can change your entire pelvic health journey—and invite you to a workshop that can kickstart your healing.
The pelvic floor is a web of muscles, fascia, and ligaments that supports the bladder, uterus, and rectum.
These tissues coordinate with your core and breath to regulate continence, stabilize posture, enable sexual function, and support pelvic organs.
But when these muscles are either too tight (hypertonic) or too weak (hypotonic), symptoms occur—leaks, urgency, pain, pressure, all of which lead to a disconnection from intimacy or joy.
A study published in Current Opinion in Obstetrics & Gynecology identifies self care exercises as a frontline treatment for urinary incontinence and pelvic pain.
PFPT involves specialized techniques to assess, relax, and strengthen the pelvic floor, and has shown significant improvement in quality of life for women of all ages (Wallace et al., 2019).
If you’ve tried the “fixes”—Kegels, gadgets, pads, creams, surgeries—you’re not alone.
But here’s what no one told you, and what I saw the most after healing over 22,000 women:
You can’t fully heal a body that your subconscious believes should stay in pain.
Many of us are conditioned to believe our symptoms are just “part of aging.” That we should settle. That healing is selfish or unrealistic.
But that belief creates an internal ceiling.
A subconscious glass roof that says:
That’s the deeper work no one talks about.
And it’s why many women see only partial results—because they’re addressing just the muscles, not the mind, fascia, or nervous system underneath.
The pelvic floor is more than anatomical—it’s emotional. It’s where the body holds stress, trauma, fear, and protective tension.
According to Inner Rhythm Wellness, chronic stress and past trauma can literally embed into pelvic floor tension.
When left unprocessed, emotional states manifest physically: hypertonic muscles, clenching, discomfort with intimacy, or numbness.
This is especially true for women who’ve experienced birth trauma, sexual pain, or have spent decades “sucking it in” and “pushing through.”
To heal fully, we must acknowledge the messages the body has been holding—and let it know: it’s safe to release.
1. Step Into Your Genius BodyMost women operate in the Zone of Survival: managing symptoms, limiting movement, avoiding intimacy.
But healing happens in your Zone of Genius—when you reconnect with your body’s innate wisdom.
You were born with a body capable of restoration and resilience. But you’ve been taught to shrink, numb, or ignore it.
It’s time to reclaim your birthright to feel strong, empowered, and at peace in your body. There are many ways to step into your zone of genius.
CLICK HERE to enroll in my Live Pelvic Floor CPR Workshop
Quick Action: Each morning, ask:
“What would healing feel like today?”
Let the answer guide your breathing, posture, and actions. As with all things, practice makes perfect. You have to practice listening to your body and your heart.
Fear and indecision are natural responses – it takes courage to push through those feelings and reclaim your body- but once you get into the rhythm of it, your healing journey will begin.
Have you ever made progress… only to fall back again?
That’s often not a failure—it’s fear.
Your nervous system might view healing as unfamiliar or even threatening. Especially if your identity has been wrapped in pain, caretaking, or suppression. At my clinic Renew PT, I saw so much subconscious self sabotage, we created an acronym for it- SSS. This experience has inspired all of the techniques in my V Core Lift Program.
Sometimes, your body reactivates symptoms as a subconscious way to return to “the known.”
This is not a weakness. It’s wiring. And it can be rewired.
Quick Action: When symptoms flare, pause and ask:
“What success or change preceded this?”
Often, the symptom is a backlash to growth—not regression.
Feeling amazing can be… uncomfortable.
If your body has only known struggle, then joy, freedom, and sensuality may feel foreign—even unsafe.
Many women sabotage progress by tightening all over again, doubting the good, or dismissing small wins.
But success in pelvic healing requires repetition of feeling good. Your fascia and nervous system need proof that wellness is safe.
Quick Action: Start a “Healing Wins” journal.
Celebrate tiny shifts: a longer walk, no leaks at night, a moment of sensuality.
You’re teaching your brain and body a new normal.
While pelvic floor exercises are essential, combining them with fascial release, breathwork, sound healing, and emotional release leads to deeper and more lasting results.
A study published by the National Institutes of Health shows that pairing myofascial manipulation with Kegels offers more improvement in pain and function than exercises alone (PMC9906106).
In my V-Core Lift program, we also use trauma-informed fascia stretches and reverse Kegels to target the deeper root of pelvic guarding—making the body feel safe enough to open, release, and heal.
If you’re feeling like you’ve “tried everything” and still don’t feel better, let me reassure you:
You’re not broken.
You’re not weak.
You’ve been working with outdated tools—or without the permission to believe in full healing.
You are allowed to feel good.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to stop leaking, hurting, and hiding.
If this blog stirred something in you… that’s your body saying, “I’m ready.”
The Pelvic Floor CPR Workshop is a free workshop where I teach my proven 5-step S.T.A.R.R System to help you:
This isn’t about “just doing Kegels.”
The Pelvic CPR Workshop full-spectrum pelvic transformation grounded in science, safety, and self-love.
This may be the most important 60 minutes you spend on yourself all year.
References
Isa Herrera, MSPT, CSCS is a New York City-based holistic women's pelvic floor specialist, author of 5 books on pelvic health, including the international best seller Female Pelvic Alchemy, and the ground-breaking self-help book, Ending Female Pain, A Woman's Manual. She has dedicated her career to advancing awareness of pelvic floor conditions so that more people can find relief from this silent epidemic that affects over 30 million people in the US alone. Ms. Herrera holds a BA in Psychology and Biology from Fordham University and also a Masters in Physical Therapy from Hunter College.
